• Death,  R.D. Hayes News

    Lady sentenced in my sons death

    Please take the time to read the news article that I wrote on Associated Content about the sentencing that Murguia received after killing my six year old son, Gaje Florence. I greatly appreciate everyone who had helped us to walk through this long dark road. I wrote this article so that everyone could stay up to date with what was going on and how the trial was going. Comments are greatly appreciated on the article. Please be sure to check out the resource box on the article for more information to what led to this incident and we greatly appreciate all the prayers that have went out to help us.  Elsie Margiretta…

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    It is Okay to Deal with Grief in Your Own Way

    The week following the death of my son, I stopped crying in front of people and bottled up inside of my own shell. I still cried at night and I still had the memories that came along with not knowing what was going to happen next. For the most part, I found myself in his room late at night crying by myself and holding onto his Spongebob pillow. I heard people from across the room saying to one another that it was strange that I stopped crying but what they didn’t know was that I had stopped crying in front of them and built a lot of anger around this…

  • Death,  Parenting

    Pregnancy: How to Tell Your Other Children

    One of the hardest things to do when you are expecting a child, is to tell the other people in the family. The reason behind this is because you don’t know how they are going to react or how well that they will take the situation. Other children may find it hard to believe while others, except it and appreciate the fact that you told them. Some children tend to go into a shell, some begin to act like a baby themselves, children will also sometimes become angry or jealous. But you need to tell them because they are going to be a part of this new baby’s life. The…

  • Death,  Parenting

    How to Tell a 5 Year Old that a Loved One Has Died

    After the death of my son, I faced the cold hard fact that he was not coming back to us. I didn’t realize how hard it would be to talk to my three year old daughter about the death of her six year old brother, until that moment came where I felt I had no choice. My two daughters where staying at their father’s house for the summer and where not there at the time of the incident. I had called the very night of his death and told their dad what had happened but I asked him to not talk about it until I seen them again so that I could explain to them in…

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    Tops 10 Things to Not Say to Someone Who Has Just Lost a Loved One

    Many people do not know what to say when a friend has lost a loved one. Some of the things that they do say, can leave that person feeling puzzled or asking themselves why you had even said it. Here is a list of things that you should try to avoid saying to someone who has lost a loved one. I am sorry for your loss This is number one on my list for a reason. Most people say this because they do not know what else to say to them. The person who recently lost a loved one, has heard this so much that it is driving them crazy. The word sorry, is usually said…

  • Death,  R.D. Hayes News

    Oklahoma Mother Wants a Harsher Sentence for the Woman Accused of Killing Her Son

    Editor’s note: The following is a first-person news account from Associated Content CP Rosa Hayes, who lost her son in an auto accident. Hayes wrote about the death of her son here. She lives in Oklahoma City. I was notified that the lady who had killed my son, Gaje Florence, was only getting charged with negligent homicide. Negligent homicide only carries a one year sentence term in Oklahoma. Our family has been outraged over this. We felt that we needed to make a change to the negligent homicide charge so that no one else has to go through this. I looked up the meaning of negligent homicide. Negligent means to not care or to be careless and…

  • Death,  R.D. Hayes News

    Oklahoma City Mother Recounts the Death of Her Son

    Editor’s note: The following is a first-person news account from Associated Content CP Rosa Hayes, who lost her son in an auto accident. Hayes lives in Oklahoma City. NewsOK.com has a full account of the accident. I was inside of my house working on a project that I was going to have submitted for a company that I work for, when I heard my husband, Brent Florence come inside of the house and shut the screen door behind him. It was only moments later that I heard someone outside screaming. I felt a chill run down my back and I heard my husband running for the door. The screen door slammed and then a man that I had never saw before, came running into the house as I…